Sunday, December 4, 2011

Triviality, My Triviality

 

The time of the year when my birthday comes by visit is drawing near. People make wishes on their birthdays, and it’s a beautiful thing. Though this year there is no cake, no card, no friend, can I sing myself Happy Birthday and make some wishes too? 

I wish to be around my beloved friends and stop being just “some guy who would occasionally show up”. I wish to no longer be missed out, misunderstood, or mistakenly opinioned.

I wish to be around families, to be welcomed and to be spoiled, to be actually considered as important and irreplaceable, not alienated. I wish to be home.

I wish to be loved, cared, comforted, and respected.

Too much of wishful thinking, isn’t it? How can I be around my friends, if they are all scattered in Vietnam, Montana, Missouri, and California since I am freaking nomadic? Will I ever be able to get myself a “home”? And will I ever be a good man?  

Ok, that’s it for unhappy thoughts. I should never self-ask too much: there ain’t a “someone” to answer the questions for me. Besides, everything in this world is into place and there eternally is a plan. I am to leave my trivial thoughts behind and move forward.

It’s ok. Everything will be just fine. And someday, I will be alone no longer : )

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Thursday, November 24, 2011

And So I am Thankful


Someone has said, “Foolish men think of the Past, wise men think of the Present, and evil men think of the Future.” Whether a person is wise or evil, then, only Time can tell. It’s not that I am implying anything – I don’t necessarily agree with the quote even. Let me allow myself to be foolish a bit and think of the Past today so that I can be thankful. It’s Thanksgiving after all.

I am thankful that I used to be able to enjoy some family time during holidays. I still remember those Thanksgivings when I could expect some good turkey, sweet potatoes, and green beans. Best food ever: full of love, joy, and tastiness.

I am thankful that I used to have a person to love and to be loved. Isn’t Love the most precious thing, for me to have someone to be waited for, some place to fall back to when all else wrongs, some hope to lean on to when the future is clouded with vast chaos?

And I am thankful for every other good thing that used to happen in the Past. Joyous time when hanging out with friends, self-fulfilling occasions when important things accomplished, and peaceful moments when sitting alone on the grass under the red, windy sky. And yes, I learned to love the rain, too! Rain was happiness. It may still is, because I still remember.

How does one define what a happy life is? To me a good life is the one which has many good moments in it. Some family moment, some good friendships, some achievements, one love. And maybe that’s quite enough for a life to be entitled as “happy”. Because of it, it doesn’t really matter to me how tough this current life is, or how depressing the future can be. I already have my happy life, and I will be thanking God for it forever.

“Một lần yêu thôi về thắp nến linh hương trong lòng
Và ngồi hát ca bềnh bồng…”

Happy Thanksgiving to you too. 

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Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Tìm Em Giữa Đời


Giấu thật sâu tận nơi nào
Im lặng, ta mãi đào chẳng thấy
Rồi từ đây tình yêu người cách biệt
Lặng lẽ đời trôi; em quên tôi.

In vào tim ta là nỗi đau bé nhỏ
Mỏng manh, khốn khổ, chơi vơi.

Sống khắc khoải rồi sẽ phải đi thôi
Ông Trời ơi, làm chi cho khắc nghiệt?
Rồi có còn ai biết
Rằng sau bao năm cách biệt
Yêu thương lại mải miết đi tìm em giữa đời…

Sunday, October 9, 2011

How to become a little bit more successful


Regardless of what we do, it almost always comes down to whether it’s a success or a failure. Like taking a daily bus to work.

Normally there’s more than one option for us to choose. Some are simply good. Just by choosing one of them, the chance of success will be automatically enhanced and secured. For those who want to get from my apartment to the banking center where I work, the bus number 522 is a great option. 522 is a “rapid bus” which skips 70% of the bus stops and doesn’t have to follow a fixed schedule: it runs as fast as the traffic allows. By taking a 522, I can get to work in less than 30 minutes, sometimes even within 20 minutes!

Good options, however, don’t come around very often. We can’t help but to look for available alternatives which aren’t gonna be as appealing. In those less fortunate days when 552s are nowhere to be seen, a Number 22 will take me instead. 22 is a “standard” bus which stops at every single bus stop on its path and follows the schedule faithfully. When a 22 shows up early, I can’t ever be glad knowing that it’s gonna rest for 10-15 minutes somewhere on the road to keep up with the schedule. And I will arrive at work in (averagely) 45 minutes.

25 minutes and 45 minutes are decisively different. One would make me a model employee who shows up gloriously 15 minutes ahead of the schedule; another would show the world that I am nothing but a slacker who apparently not very talented at time management. If every bus in the world magically became a 522, I would be very happy.

Wishful thinking doesn’t help, and none of us controls the existence of the good and bad things, they may as well be left to chances. Humanity, therefore, is stuck forever with absolute blind luck.

Or is it, really?

Many people in the past have moved mountains, conquered great seas, and changed history. I believe that each and every one of us possesses the power to change many things, including those that are yet to come upon us. One day I got tired of hoping for seeing a 522 coming every single morning, so I decided to change. I started waking up 15 minutes earlier. Now by the time I get to the bus stop, it no longer matters which bus is coming. Either 522 or 33 will get me to work on time, and if I don’t feel like it, I can even skip a 22 to wait for an eventual 522 in pleasure. By waking up a little earlier, I am able to choose which bus to get in. By changing ourselves a little bit, we gain the power to manage the future’s outcomes.

Self-discipline is no easy task. Significant changes occur when one’s will is determined enough.   By being a little bit more determined, we can have many of those good and bad things grasped in our hands, and the power to control them is to our disposal. And finally, we may as well be a bit, though just a tiny bit, more successful in Life.

Monday, September 12, 2011

I am back again

Life has been really hectic lately for me. I am amazed how quickly a week can get by when having a job. There are simply so many things to be done and I would rarely go to bed at night without feeling guilty for my own indiscipline. So here I sigh…

That’s it for excuses. I have neglected this page long enough and I ought to come back. How can DK-Gm ever define himself without this blog? He can’t. Some certain precious things will be gone forever if he does.

Mark my word, there will be a new post next week!

Sunday, June 26, 2011

How to watch a movie and appreciate it fully


You have a movie in mind that you really want to watch because you know that it’s gonna be great? These are some steps you should take to make it a wonderful experience:

1.                   Go to Wikipedia and find out the original book the movie gets inspired from
2.                   Read the book
3.                   Finish it
4.                   Appreciate it and give it some thoughts
5.                   Wait for 3-10 months until the story has faded away a little
6.                   Now you are ready. Get the movie and watch it.

Trust me, the impacts the movie would give you after going through all of these steps are phenomenal. It takes so much effort and time of so many diligent hard-workers to produce a movie, it’s certainly worth it.

Saturday, June 11, 2011

How to Become a Teller For Bank of America


I currently am working for Bank of America (BofA) as a teller, and it’s been 2 months now. A little bit about what I am, I am an international student whose first language is not English. When I graduated from college, I didn’t do any internship and had no remotely related experience to banking industry. I was full of disadvantages. BofA’s website clearly stated that they wouldn’t typically hire and sponsor F1-visa students, and, on top of everything, the economy was painfully lagging.

One cannot help but wonder why in the world they would hire someone like me while millions of Americans were being unemployed. That’s why I really think that I should share my story, and that my story might be somewhat beneficial for some of you who are now reading it.

The first and foremost reason was because I was interested in BofA deeply. When I was in my junior year, I was reading my Marketing textbook. The featured story of chapter 8 was about Bank of America, the history of the company, how as a tiny local bank they surpassed many competitors and became the current largest holding bank in the world, and how BofA is one of the best places to work for. I said to myself, “this company is great, and I will try to get in there!”

You certainly can stop reading this post right here, because I have shared with you what probably the only thing that matters most. As an applicant, I had nothing, and the only thing that made me stand a chance in the competition was that I was interested in the company the most, that I was the most passionate among the applicants. This is basically the key to success: Love what you do, and do what you love. If you truly love to work for Bank of America, then go for it.

If you choose to continue reading my post, I’ll also be very delighted, because now I am sharing about what I did with that passion. Actually when you truly desire something, you’d want to learn more about it, and things would be so much obvious beyond this point. In any industry, you got to be a “grunt” first, so aiming for the teller position was reasonable. Then of course I would have to find out what it would take to be a good teller. A teller has to be good at customer service (mostly) and sales (sales skills are important for so many things in life). So how did I achieve these two skills, I took part time jobs. During my three and a half years in college, I served food and cleaned things in a buffet restaurant, processed barcodes and maintained an inventory in a library, sat at a reception desk, kept track of other people’s documents in a school office, and gave tours around campus to groups of new students.

How do these help at all, you say? I saw the benefits of each job when I took it: giving tours helps me present things better; filing and barcoding helps me become detail-oriented and also better with long numbers; serving food and cleaning stuffs teach me endurance and customer service; and sitting at the desk makes me know by heart of how much each roll of coins worth. Even though I had no related experience with banking industry when I applied, these “trivial” jobs made me fully ready to absorb whatever it would take to do a good job. So to be prepared is essential. The hiring process was about two weeks, but my success was constructed many months before. No experience is irrelevant at all, really. If you see something that can help you to get closer to your goal and is relatively easy, then it’s great! Do it!  

The third important reason for me to get chosen is that I was lucky the entire time. I was called for the interview at the right time, had the right interviewers and the right competitors, enjoyed the right questions and answers… The weather itself was right, too. On the day I had my last interview with the branch manager, at the last moment there was some problem with the street address. I tried to calm down, walked to the nearest computer and looked up the address for the destination. The bus came and took me away, and I arrived at the interview 10 minutes early. I was blessed.

I truly believe that humans can only try so hard, and in every success lies some sort of luck. One can try to prepare so well, yet his very ability to be able to think, move, and act is already a very great blessing. I didn’t have a car, but I was lucky enough to be able to run to the bus: a person on wheelchair might not make it to the interview like I did. We don’t really control our luck, but I do believe that each of us has our own kind of luck, and what we can do is to appreciate and utilize it.  

So it is it, then. There was no secret to it: I found out what I liked to do; I prepared; and I was lucky. Guess what? The title of this post should instead be “How DK becomes a teller for Bank of America”, since it’s mostly about my personal experiences and thoughts. But guess what? This can also be “How one can become successful in so many things in Life.” Yes, I do believe that Passion, Preparation, and Providence are important as much.