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A Matter of Trust


With all sorts of relationships we have in this life, sometimes we have to trust someone. This makes life easier, reduces unnecessary misunderstandings, and every day will pass by more enjoyably. It sounds great. We all know that.

Actually, do we?

To trust is not simply “to believe”. It’s beyond that. A trust surpasses all reasons and logics: a trust is an unreasonable belief, a belief without thinking, or using any kind of logic, or intellectual application. We trust not with our brains, but with our hearts and our souls.

A person would trust her friends that they don’t say things behind her back. A solder would trust his comrades in the battlefield. A football player would trust his captain in a national match. And a wife would trust her husband even among intensive crisis. And we certainly can find more examples than these.

But trust never really guarantees anything. In facts, people have gossiped about their friends all the time; many soldiers couldn’t save their brother-in-arms and saw them collapsed; many football captains have failed to lead their teams to victory; and many husbands have made huge mistakes regardless of others’ trusts. But, even with that, do you think that to trust is not a right think to do? Do you think that those people who trust someone else, those friends, those soldiers, those wives, do you think they are ignorant or misperceived? I don’t think so at all.

We trust our friends because we have to, just like the soldiers have to trust each other when avoiding bullets. A wife, likewise, will trust her husband, not because of any historical statistic, but because she loves him! Trusting someone is that awesome: we trust other people while we are willing to accept any consequence. Many people don’t know how to trust for their entire lives. Those who fail to believe in anyone, anything, will fail to live fully in life. To be able to trust is not only a duty - it’s a blessing, a joy that cannot be comprehended. Those friends, soldiers, and wives, those who know how to trust others, have the same happy thought in their minds: “It’s ok if you fail me. I trust you.”

So don’t think: “I don’t trust you about A because A doesn’t make sense to me.” If you need every A to make sense in order to believe in it, then you can technically trust any person who is clever enough. What would be the difference between your loved ones and total strangers then? Seriously, if we have to convince everyone with all kinds of philosophies every time in order to gain their trusts, then all the relationships in this life is nothing but a worthless joke.

Trust me, so that I may be trust-worthy.

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